A few weeks ago Jack started asking, “Why?”. I was surprised. I thought I had at least six more months before the WHY’S began. I was wrong. At first it was kind of cute. “Oh my God! He’s so curious. Honey, you have to hear this.” Then, as quickly as I thought it was cute, it became kind of annoying. I know it’s a developmental thing and all, but I feel like I am living in some kind of weird comedy sketch and I am the only one not laughing.
I recently read in one of those parenting magazines that the typical toddler asks WHY? an average of 76 times an hour. An hour!!! I believe it. I am living it. Here’s an example:
Mommy: Jack please stop hitting the cat.
Mommy: Because when you hit the cat you hurt him and it is not nice.
Mommy: Because it hurts when you get hit. Do you like getting hit by others?
Mommy: Then you need to stop hitting the cat and be nice to him.
Mommy: I just told you why. It hurts the cat and it is not nice to hit anyone. Try petting the cat gently like this.
Mommy: Because I said so. That’s why.
This is an actual conversation, if you can call it that, that took place in my son’s room this very morning. And that’s right, I pulled out the old, “Because I said so. That’s why.”. I am not proud of myself. I am a former elementary school teacher. I taught for 13 years. You would think that I would have a better answer than, “Because I said so. That’s why.”. But I didn’t and I find I often don’t.
I know that it is important for Jack to ask WHY. I mean how will he find the answer to all of his WHY’S if I don’t answer him? Maybe he will be stunted forever if I don’t. Maybe he won’t get into a good college and be passed up for the big job if I don’t answer his WHY’S. I have visions of him standing at the alter to get married and when he is asked, “Do you take this woman/man as your wife/husband?” he will ask, “WHY?”
I will have permanently damaged him. He will be in therapy forever and wind up writing a blog of his own about how his mother didn’t have the patience to answer all of his questions.
So my question is this: DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS AS TO HOW TO DEAL WITH A 2 1/2 YEAR OLD ASKING WHY EVERY OTHER SECOND?? Thanks for the help in advance.